I am a woman of patience. Too much patience, I sometimes think, but in my line of work, it is essential. That being said, I grapple with my tendency to be mild with folks, even as they work my last nerve. I can occasionally channel my #innermongoose.(A fearless favorite) On a day to day basis, I tend to keep my thoughts to myself.
Since Election Night, I have experienced many emotions. Grief is a messy process and it is different for everyone.
Through social media, well-meaning friends and acquaintances have posted, either in their own words or via shared images and articles, that it’s time for everyone to move on. I have been asked to choose love, to hug more, to open doors for strangers, and even to pray for the president-elect. I have been questioned about love for my country, regard for unborn children, and even the way I am parenting my child through this crisis. And, sabes que, I have had enough. Ya me tienen harta. Tu no me mandas!
Not you, not anyone, other than the Lord and sometimes my mama or daddy. Tu quien eres?
Tu no me mandas.
I can cry, rant, curse, laugh, and react in any way I want. I can take to the streets in protest. I can declare the president-elect #NotmyPresident. If you don’t like what I have to say or do, GTFO. Vete. Largate. Borrate. Don’t let the door hit you on the way out. I am done.
This morning, I unfollowed a fellow blogger. She’s likable and well-spoken. I respect her enough to head out on my way. She’s entitled to her opinions. She is standing strong in them. So am I. There’s nothing to be gained by trying to change her mind and sharing my judgments with her. She will believe as she does. I will believe as I do. With one difference. She has a privilege I do not. It’s easy to tell people how they should be feeling and acting when it’s safe for you to do so. The most dangerous of the president-elect’s followers won’t attack her. While I can exit stage left on any conversation that makes me uncomfortable, I can’t escape reality.
In the days, weeks, months, and years to come, I have to be prepared for the worst that could happen. I have to arm (yes, I said “arm”) my only child with the knowledge and skills to grow up into an empowered woman of color. (Mothering a warrior)These are our lives. These are our rights. If you can’t understand or respect that, then let’s wish each other well.