Another fashion mag fail

Elle Magazine (I’m not going to call you dear); I’m shaking my head at you. In what you say is your well-meaning attempt to battle PeopleMagazine’s biased taste in men, you have compiled a list of gorgeous men of color.  But, as with Allure’s lame attempt at celebrating natural Black hairstyles with their article, “You (yes you) can have an Afro,” your writing leaves a lot to be desired.  Your headline alone, “30 of the Sexiest Men Alive Who Aren’t White” was cringe worthy and insulting in and of itself.

I was so taken aback by your headline I reposted it on Facebook. My post opened with “What in fresh hell kind of headline is this?” My friends had reactions similar to mine.

The headline gets the side-eye for real!
 Because heaven forbid we have a list of the 30 Sexiest Men without another requirement. That would take away white men’s spots!
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 I think they’re trying to make a point.
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 Its cultural ignorance….so men of color can’t be white. Rubbish!!!
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 They still would have gotten the side-eye, but why not just label the headlong, “30 of the Sexiest Men of Color.” Simple as that!
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 I think they’re pointing out that the world’s sexiest man has mostly been white.
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I don’t know the intent here, but yeah, there’s better ways to make the point that sexy comes in all sorts of different colors, shapes, and sizes. Why is race even called out?
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 The only problem I have is that they didn’t put me on that list.
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Now I love me some beautiful men. Harry Shum Jr. and John Cho have both been called my husband over the years. 

Mario Lopez has been fine since 1989. 
I can’t wait to see Michael B. Jordan in Creed.

 Idris Elba is my James Bond. 

Jesse Williams is not only a handsome man but a deep thinker with tweets worth reading and retweeting. 

Boris Kodjoe: I’m speechless.

 Elle, the problem isn’t the gentlemen chosen. It’s the implication that they are an alternative, an also-ran. Your poor choice of words, presented as the hook for the audience, rendered them the second choice. Why not simply refer to them as men?  

I suppose you will argue that your title was your way of countering People’s lily-white choices over the years. But sexy is sexy.  Mentioning race was unnecessary.  Y’all need tougher editors and more thoughtful writers.  If you want to tackle the challenge of media bias, you will need to step up your game. 

Birthday portrait

It took me years to see myself as beautiful. Every so often, namely if I’m surrounded by twentysomething white women in skimpy clothing, I question myself. But I know better. In an effort to celebrate myself, I took birthday photos and am sharing them with loved ones.

A look in the mirror

It’s taken me years and years to take a good look and see someone beautiful. All that wild hair. No product in it today so it’s all black waves and thickness, that piece always falling over my left eye(who you think you are? Aaliyah?). My face that white America just don’t love but that my mama and my daddy and my girls and any man with common sense finds intriguing. Cheekbones that say yeah I done been here for thousands of years so keep steppin’, more pronounced now that my sadness is making me lose the baby fat. Nose that some say should go under a knife but hell no my nose says my ancestors ruled an entire kingdom. Little almond-shaped eyes, “mi negrita linda tiene chiquitito los ojitos, si me da una guinada, se va conmigo pa’ Puerto Rico”, the eyes that fascinate Tego and El Gran Combo, ojos chinos, eyes that disappear when I laugh and smile, which never mind the current flare up of depression, I do constantly, brown and soulful, showcasing my old soul. Underneath perfect eyebrows. My mouth is perfect for sulking, bow-shaped upper lip, pouty lower lip. No makeup on today so I’m 100% natural, 100% Peruana, 100% bella, preciosa, y bonita.